Somewhere in that uncomfortable space between dating and relationships is a black hole of confusion, anxiety and uncertainty. I call this the uncertain phase. So if you find yourself in this position, how do you deal with it? Your email address will not be published. Skip to content.
How To Get Over Uncertainty In Your Relationship Without Pulling Away | Thought Catalog
The experience of anxiety takes on many forms and is commonly described as intense, confusing, frustrating and sad. Anxiety manifests as physical and somatic symptoms, such as increased heart rate, shaking, insomnia, rapid breathing, muscular tension, sweating and fatigue. It can cause fidgety behavior, an inability to concentrate or focus, as well as feelings of nervousness and impending panic or doom. In particular, anxiety about relationships can be particularly devastating and unsettling because anxiety can be present in relationships that are going well.
How To Get Over Uncertainty In Your Relationship Without Pulling Away
Photo by Stocksy. So, you've been seeing someone for a few weeks and you notice that your new squeeze is behaving differently. You're getting fewer texts; maybe plans are more vague. Naturally, you begin to get anxious. You worry about whether they are still interested in you, or if they just need space.
We often fuel that uncertainty by trying to protect ourselves from that fear by pulling away, looking for reasons to justify it and maybe even cutting our losses all together and breaking up with someone before they hurt us. Have you always been the one to walk away first when things got hard or uncertain? Do your cons always outweigh the pros? Do you get uncomfortable when the situation is unfamiliar to you or pushes you up against your boundaries of love?